lambslayer: Some people put too much emphasis on making her cum. The priority isn’t how many orgasms she has, it’s about making her feel comfortable and safe with you. I’ve been with several women who told me they struggle to cum with partners but manage just fine on their own. Be gentle with them, to start at least. Take it slow. Your ultimate aim isn’t for her to cum, it’s to make her feel good and feel fucking hot. Don’t tell her to cum for you, don’t mention it at all. Just kiss her. Taste her. Suck on her body. Pay attention to her diaphragm and her breathing. Keep doing the things that you notice make her breath quicken. Cool things off when she’s breathing too rapidly. Empty her head for her. Talk to her. Tell her how good she’s being. Tell her how the noises she’s making are causing you to throb. Tell her how lucky you feel to be doing those things to her, because you are lucky. If you communicate with her she’ll be more likely to communicate with you. If you’re not sure ask her if what you’re doing feels good. A partner is not someone you’re trying to get the orgasm high score on. You want to make her feel better than anyone else has? Take your time. Even when she’s begging for more. It’ll pay off.